So, when you get home from work at 9pm and a picture of puppy in socks has you sobbing, you’re not going nuts – you just need a rest! 5. Why do people cry at unexpected things when they’re tired? After a long day, we’re more vulnerable to strong emotions which trigger tears. The good news is that crying from stress gives us a release of this build up and can help us to think more clearly afterwards. We’ve all had the horrible feeling of worries and tension that build up internally, whether from pressures at work, personal relationships or major life changes. The emotional strain from this period surfaces as soon as the problem goes away, resulting in tears. This is slightly different from purely crying with happiness often we will cry when we reach a point of contentment after a long stretch of stress or unhappiness. What causes crying with happiness? Well, it’s often linked to love and personal connection, for example at a wedding or the birth of a child. Let’s start on a positive note! Every once in a while, you’ll experience a happy emotion that prompts tears of joy. But if he doesn’t meet with a coach, it is likely that the things he is struggling with are going to get worse.Make crying easier to cope with by using some strong, soft tissues when you’re feeling fragile. Your son can do therapy to learn these coping skills and practice them over and over, and eventually he won’t need the coach anymore. Even professional basketball players need coaches to learn new strategies, learn new skills, think about different ways to succeed. If he’s playing basketball, of course he’s going to have a basketball coach. Going to therapy is more synonymous with seeing a coach. Also people tend to have the idea that going to therapy means that you’re going to be talking about your deepest darkest feelings with some guy, but the truth is that we now have much more scientifically driven treatments. Unfortunately a lot of people have this bias that going to therapy is a bad thing, but what your son is struggling with is actually pretty common, and going to therapy for help with it is, too. But ultimately the goal for getting him to feel better will be therapy that gives him some coping skills. So I would recommend for him to be evaluated to see if he has depression or an anxiety issue. Although he may seem happy in some areas of life, the fact that he’s having all these over-the-top reactions could indicate that he is depressed. He might also have some depression, which is making him overly sensitive to things. If he had better coping skills he’d be able to respond to these things in a more positive way, but now he’s reacting negatively with crying and avoiding things and giving up. He doesn’t know how to handle rejection or losing or mistakes, and might be misinterpreting playful teasing as bullying. It sounds like your son is starving for coping skills - he doesn’t know how to walk himself through what to do when upsetting things happen. He is super smart but he's turned into an overly sensitive video game junkie and I don't want that for him. If he's playing and makes a mistake he immediately gets "hurt" or shuts down completely and gives up.My ex-husband is 100% against therapy in any form and therefore leaves me little options so hopefully you can give me some insight and advice as to what I can do to help my child. At this point trying to just have a conversation about behavior is triggering this.He also plays sports and I thought this would help with self-esteem and make him less sensitive over small things, but he seems to stay just outside the action playing half-heartily at best. Harmless teasing, losing a game, any form of discipline or criticism, slight injuries are treated like severe trauma. He has always been a rough and tough, fearless child, but now cries over almost everything. For example, he will take off his shoes and when asked to retrieve them will start to cry. Q My 10-year-old son has become progressively more sensitive over the last 2 years and now cries over almost anything.
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